Reality theory assumes that we are in charge of our lives and choose forms of behavior, which are directed toward what primary goals?

• A. Decreasing self-esteem
• B. Increasing self-esteem, increasing belonging and attaining power and freedom
• C. Maintaining old habits
• D. Suppressing personal responsibility

Answer: (B)

In reality therapy, individuals are in charge of their lives and choose behaviors aimed at meeting basic needs. The primary goals these behaviors seek to fulfill include increasing self-esteem, increasing belonging with others, and gaining a sense of power and freedom. Self-esteem grows when we feel capable and worthwhile; belonging comes from meaningful connections; power and freedom involve having a sense of control and choice in our lives. So this option best captures the aims of our actions under reality therapy. The other ideas—lowering self-esteem, sticking to old habits without change, or suppressing personal responsibility—don’t fit because they don’t reflect the move toward growth, connection, and taking responsibility for one’s choices.